These things seem true to me, regarding sexuality:
1) It is one of the most profound things in human existence.
2) It is so profound that it frightens many of us.
3) That fear causes some of us to hide from sexuality's profundity.
4) That drive to hide from sexuality often makes us behave illogically.
These things seem true to me about traditional wisdom:
1) Self-control is held in high esteem.
2) Self-control is often regarded by students and teachers alike as a constant need, rather than a thing that may be let-go, under the proper circumstances (which, in itself, is a kind of modified control).
3) Therefore, any abandonment of control is regarded as failure and, sometimes, immorality.
Because of the truths above, many a bride -- and perhaps many a groom -- over the course of time, have fellt guilt over their pleasures with their spouses, even if they followed the rules of her religion and "waited." Why? Because the act in which they engaged felt like a loss of self-control; like an abandonment of everything they were taught. They stood too close to the doorway to
Tao -- that place where all of our morals, all of our logic, and all of our social graces evaporate into the vapours of all creation . . .
