If their lives were
Exotic and strange,
They would likely have
Gladly exchanged them
For something a little more plain --
Maybe something a little more sane.
Neil Peart, "Mission."If you will indulge me, I will present you with another movie-inspired post. As always, not a proper review of a movie -- just thoughts inspired by it.
I thought The Imitation Game was a wonderful film, top to bottom. A scene at the end, however, rubbed me the wrong way because it contained a typical message that I think is damaging.
Alan Turing (inventor of the computer) sits, after all of the dust has cleared from his incredible intellectual victories, with his friend and colleague, Joan Clarke. They discuss how she has found, as Turing (a genius and an outsider in every conceivable way) points out, a "normal" life of marriage and career, etc. Joan chastises him for wishing to be "normal" and she points to an array of dials and wires in the next room (another prototype computer) and tells him "no one normal could have done that."
I disagree. I think someone "normal" could have done that. More of that in a minute.
That message really bothers me. It contributes to the perpetuation of a cliche; that geniuses cannot be "normal" people.
|Cumberbatch as Alan Turing, next to his invention, |
For years, women were told they should be either mothers or secretaries. Look what happened when that message changed. What do you think would happen if we depicted geniuses as socially-functioning people? Would it be inaccurate? Sure, to some extent. Let's face it: some geniuses were disturbed and unhappy and were isolated because of their differences from the people around them. The problem is, we hear more about them than the "normal" ones because it is Romantic. But I am sure there are even more geniuses whose lives contained pretty fulfilling family, social and spiritual elements. But who wants to watch a movie about that?
Whatever the case, there is merit in telling the young geniuses out there that the struggle might well be worth it; that it is, indeed, possible to be both brilliant and part of the waking world. All sorts of research shows that association with other humans is good for our health and happiness. It need not be a sacrifice of our individuality to have -- or to learn how to have -- friends.
This is not meant to be an implication about my own intellectual abilities, but, I do know the struggle of trying to be "normal." Despite being an introvert, I spend a lot of time around people. It can be difficult. I do well with an audience. (I am, after all, a teacher.) But there are times when the weight is on my heart is palpable. Even at gatherings with my own family or friends, I often find myself retreating to the bathroom just to lock the door for a minute and "recharge" with a little solitude. It is not unlike the physical feeling of needing to sit down after a lot of time on one's feet. Something inside me desperately needs a "rest" from all of the words and all of the people pressing in on me.
I could give up, as I have know some to, and hide. I could always stay home (as I usually want to do) but I fight against it, knowing that my happiness and health, to some large extent, rely on others. Solitude is wonderful; isolation is the start of an ever-increasingly frosty winter it the heart.
How many young people have you seen brag about "weird"? (Go on YouTube and find a million of them.) They, in their awkwardness, are playing a role; embracing their abnormality. Why do they do this? Because of cultural models, whether among their friends or in books and movies and television shows. There are obese people out there embracing their largeness, these days, and working to crush standards of beauty. It might be liberating for them, but, it sure isn't good for their health.
One can't deny that those who innovate, create, problem solve and change the world tend to be different than those around them. It is a blessing and a curse. But, if geniuses were led to believe that they can be both exceptional and "normal," we might find ourselves surrounded by many more content world-changers. Enough of this "no one normal could have done that."
If normal means to be like everyone else, I'm out. If normal means to be just enough part of the world that I feel at home in it, I'm in. Geniuses have a right to the same normality, free from the pressures of what the world expects, just as women deserved to be liberated from the kitchens, bedrooms and typewriters of cultural expectation. Any woman has a right to choose to be a stay-at-home mom or to be a corporate executive, now. Geniuses should have a right to choose to join the world around them without fear they will be seen as typical; without using cultural cliches as an excuse to give up on being part the human tides.