For our daughters, we need to shut down the idea that TV and magazines are reality. I'm not just talking about telling them about Photoshop magic and the like. I'm talking about really showing them the the old cliche stands up: beauty is, in fact, in the eye of the beholder and it is not dictated by the eye of the photographer or of the fashion designer or of the producer.
|John Singer Sargent|
Men have a more varied view of feminine beauty than the mainstream media give them credit for. Sure, we all react to the Sports Illustrated models (are we not flesh and blood?) but, unless we are deluded fools (and some of us are, granted) we find beauty in many other forms and even in what others would have us believe is "imperfection."
I guess you will just have to trust me on this, girls. It's hard, I suppose, if you believe the message that gets drilled into your skull all day, every day. But guys are more complex than they are given credit for (except for those who are still wearing furs and chasing dinosaurs -- and they do exist). You are beautiful to somebody and probably to many. Do you really want to be beautiful to everyone? -- especially when that standard of beauty is manufactured?
My wife is beautiful to me and to many others. If I could keep her the same, inside, and change her into Kate Upton on the outside...I wouldn't.