When I was a teenager, my mother used to get mad that I didn't clean up after myself. When she was very mad, she used to say, "I'm not your maid. You think I am your maid."
I would protest, back then, that I did not think she was my maid. I maintain that protest today: I never thought that. Nor did I mean any disrespect when I left my socks on the floor. I was just scatter- brained and immature. (Thank God I have completely emerged from those shortfalls! What?)
Should I have picked my socks up? Yes.
Is leaving one's socks on the floor a disrespectful action by virtue of a lack of consideration for one's mother? Yes. But does that lack of thought toward one's mother mean a complete absence of respect? No.
Is not cleaning up after one's self and leaving the work for one's mother to do an insignificant thing? No, especially not when one's mother sees the negligence as disrespectful. But, is it the summation of the sock-dropper's complete attitude toward his mother? Of course not.
Would it be advisable to change one's sock-dropping behavior for the sake of mutual respect? Yes. But can love and respect still thrive if one takes into consideration the myriad other aspects of interpersonal familial relationships that surround the evil sock dropping?
I'll let you answer.